Be: Ready!Planning ideas before and during the wedding. Please don't feel obligated that you have to do or use any of these. Remember to make it your day.
If you have a wedding/couple website or page online for family and friends of your own... Please share with me. Especially if we are communicating over email or long distances.
Phones, keys and wallets Ohh my! Some people think these things don't show but in some dress pants you can almost see everything in their pockets. On the other hand if you're going to hide these things creatively make sure they are actually hidden. You do not want to play the "what is in tommy's pocket" game with your wedding photos.
Hot or cold the show must go on! Prepare in advance for both. What you or I may think is cold or hot may also be different than say Aunt Betty from the tip of Florida.
Ladies: LESS shimmer is better! There is a new make-up and spray culprit: SHINE, GLIMMERS AND GLITTERS! Remember this, if you wear shine and glitter of ANY kind, even as a foundation, you will in fact shine and glitter -- only too much for cameras! Many times with all those fun body glitters, shine makeups and glitter hair sprays, we think we are doing something good or fun. When the truth is, they only dramatically reflect the lights that are highlighting your face. And in a really bad way. All you get in the end is large awkward shines spots. I recommend to cut down those glitters and makeups enhancements that make you shine. Lipstick is one thing, but everywhere else is another. One source says this: "Makeup: 1. Keep it classic. The look that is fabulous now will look dated in a couple of years and you will wish that you had not been so trendy. Use a matte makeup (even if shine and glitter are in) and keep the shine down. In photos, shine will make you look sweaty and dirty." Another source I read on Yahoo! said that glitters can actually make you look older because it sticks to any creases, even if you don't have wrinkles yet we all have smile creases.
Want that kiss - HOLD that kiss! Want that great ceremony kiss photo? Then don't be shy and hold that kiss a little longer. Not only will you get a louder & longer applause, but your photographer has more of a chance to capture that kiss in that moment. Plus I don't think a kiss can ever be too long. Give it at least 5 seconds or kiss, stop, and kiss one more time.
Closer together is better: While standing up at the ceremony, whether a party of two or a party of twenty, the closer you stand together, the better it looks in photos. Keep a small distance from the bride/groom but as a group, closer looks better in photos. This also goes out to the couple, get close, this helps tremendously in photos. Otherwise, there is all this blank space that looks awkward. You're getting married, so get close and delete that empty space!
What's the rush? Anyone over the age of 7 should not run down the aisle, unless you're really late or there is an extreme time limit where your ceremony is. Take your time walking down the isle. I see so many bridesmaids practically running and the song barely started. Action shots are great at the reception but weren't made for the ceremony walk. Frankly, it can look a bit silly too. Remember, show off those dresses, they cost a lot, this is your time to shine. You also help build the intense wait for the bridal entrance! Most importantly, it allows your photographer and/or guests to get their camera ready for the next person coming down.
Taking dance lessons for your first dance? You'll want to know this: Practice in similar clothes you will be wearing your wedding day. I hear the same thing over and over, "I didn't realize how much harder it was to do the steps with a big ball gown!" or the groom trying work around the bottom of the dress is very challenging even if it's bustled up. Or a grooms jacket being a tighter fit than he realized for pivots and turns.
Being asked/told "Watch out for my necklace, bra straps, and other objects while I wear them." I want you to bring certain concerns to my attention so they can be avoided but please don't think that is a cure all for the problem. You will still need to help by also paying attention to the small details. In today's ever changing fashion world one person's dislike can be another's want. So I will need you to tell me if something you chose to wear is not functioning as you intended.
"You can just Photoshop that, right?" Given an endless amount of time and resources almost anything can eventually be Photoshopped. Some things can be done quickly while others can be extremely time consuming and not included in the cost of your package. So try not to have photoshop be your first solution. If you have any questions of what may or may not be included please ask.
2 loved ones giving away bride: Make sure there is enough room down the aisle inside a church or building to walk side-by-side. If not, I recommend spacing out or handing off the bride halfway.
Easiest, fastest, best way to fluff the dress: Grab the entire train and do a big fluff like a bed sheet and let it fall naturally. It goes down perfectly almost every time. (With the exception of a solid heavily beaded dress, then it doesn't work, I have no easy tips for those)! If you don't get it right the first time it is better to have photos with a not-so-fluffed dress then photos of someone continually trying to get it perfect.
Got a really long veil? Let that baby fly! I see the most beautiful veils and sometimes they are held down or onto so much during formal romantics that I wonder what is the point? Pin that baby in solid and let it fly. It makes the best photos and it's just plain cool. I can see sometimes holding it during a very strong wind but if I'm getting the wind fluffing it up, it's an amazing shot. So let go, literally! The only time I would recommend taming it is if it was continually blocking your face during Ceremony.
Aislerunners are not always flattering: If you want your march down the aisle to really look like a march, then go for the regular cheap runner. Otherwise, do some research. Runners can stick, slip, bunch up, look and feel terrible. I've also seen brides trip on the rocks or drag the rocks in their dress, that were supposed to be holding it down from blowing away. I suggest do some test walks in the same type shoes in the same setting, especially if it's going to be on grass. This website gives some great information when it comes to runners: www.originalrunners.com
Bride's Hair: Consider no tendrils on sides of face: Yeah, you know tendrils, the curls going down each side of the face from the temple area. I've done weddings where it blocked the bride's face for all the photos from the side. Which ended up being a lot. If you think about all the times your profile will be, such as ceremony and formal dances, all missed emotion from those angles. I do what I can but please consider pulled back or all the way down. If not, just know that may happen.
Someone in or involved in the wedding should know how to do these things when needed:
-How to put on a boutonnière. -How to put on a tie and/or bow tie. -How to fold handkerchief. -How to lace-up a wedding dress. -How to bustle the wedding dress.
When I say know how I mean physically able to do so. Some of these things my assistant and I can do but then who will be taking the photos or be in the photos? I suggest the people you want in the photos be the ones doing it.
As strange as this sounds: be happy and show your love! In the hustle, and literal bustle of the wedding, stress can build. Take a deep breath, relax and enjoy the moment. Be the couple that you fell in love with and let that show in your photos. If all else fails smile and/or kiss, that always works.
Should I always look at the camera? During formals, requested group photos and some throughout the day you should look at the camera but not the entire wedding. Sometimes, pretend the photographer and videographer are not there. I don't mean awkwardly avoid looking at the camera just giving you permission to be yourself outside of the staged photos you want.
Who do I look at if there are two photographers or family/friends are taking photos? For group or formal photos always look at Holly (or main photographer) for the first couple photos unless asked otherwise. I'd like to have everyone looking at me at the same time. I don't mind after I am done if family and friends also take photos, just don't want a time consuming competition using up your wedding time.
When children and pets are in formal photos, try to look at me more than them... then I have a better chance of getting you all looking at me at the same time. This is especially true for the ones that are tired and don't want to be in any more photos. I will try to get their attention or have a family member or friend jump behind me to get their attention so always look at me and be ready and smiling. This way we are more likely to get that shot.
Performing dips, spins, back flips, flash mobs and other activities: Try to position yourself towards the camera when possible. It is also best if you can let your camera person know when you will be performing dips, spins or back flips.
Like herding cats. Wedding Party and Family - please don't wander off. What is worse than herding cats or kittens? Sometimes trying to gather people for a large group photo at a wedding. It's true! What helps? Provide a list and/or tell those you want in the photos ahead of time to be there and be ready, with a set time. Also find a friend or family member attending the wedding who knows everyone and is outspoken to help gather for both sides. Or a helpful wedding planner to help out. This goes for the wedding party and/or direct family members that are to be in the formal photos. To some degree it is the responsibility of the photographer but they will not personally know everyone by name or appearance.
If you have something really unique or special, let me know: this could include special necklaces, shoes, charms or passed on items such as veils. Anything I may not know about. This also goes for special events planned that are beyond your average wedding events, such as a special birthday cake for a guest or an anniversary gift to the grandparents, those sorts of things can help your photographer in so many ways.
Use the surroundings and/or weather as a choice not a limit: So it's pouring rain, a blizzard hits, or it's too sunny! So why not use it as an advantage? Grab an umbrella, boots, or shades honey 'cause we are making it work! Puddles make great reflections, snowfall tells a story and the sun creates beautiful silhouettes! Don't be heartbroken, overcome it. Those open minded thoughts are what make some of the best photos possible. You'll be glad you did.
Feel comfortable with your photographer choice: Be ready to allow your photographer to do their job. If you have any doubts or questions settle them before your day. So on your day you can enjoy yourselves. I recommend an engagement session so you have a chance to see how great you look in photos.
Cutting the cake: You'd think cutting the cake would be easy, it's cake, but it is always asked on how to do it. If you want to keep the top of the cake, only cut the bottom so the caterers can wrap the top it up for you later. If you don't want to keep the top than cut whereever you wish. It's just like at home, only this cake is for your wedding. All you do is take the knife, cut a nice sized piece and either serve with your hands or the plate/utensils supplied. Then, it's up to you on the smashing or not. Just remember, it always looks bad when staff or a coordinator is in photos doing it for you. I've even seen as bad as them cutting the entire thing with the bride and groom, it was not the intimate setting like it should be. Anyway, it's cake and it won't bite, you bite it!
Cake background: Whether it is fabric that contrasts the cake or some other source of art, decoration, a solid color or fold out of some sort, it really does make a difference. Sometimes you don't have a choice in the cake placement because the venue has safety reasons but it doesn't hurt to see what your options are. Something to think about when planning for a venue.
Head table centerpieces and flowers: If you plan to have tall flowers, centerpieces or your bouquets lined up at the reception tables where you are sitting, particularly the bride and groom seating, make sure your guest and photographer/videographer can see you fully. If not, move them over to the side, especially if you are seated higher than the guests. Otherwise you could have odd things coming out your nose and we miss the great expressions during your toast!
Colorful teeth and lips all night: Do you have super bright or dark colorful icing on your cake or grooms cake? If you do, make sure you cut the cake and eat the icing after all the main formal events. Otherwise you may end up with blue lips and teeth for all the rest of the evening photos. While you may not care about this for the free-style dancing photos or bouquet toss, you may care for the parent dances.
Garter: I usually see the garter on the left leg of the bride but choose what feels most comfortable for you!
Lint rollers - a must have on hand: This is especially for the gentlemen who have a dark colored suit or tux. You'd be surprised at what shows up on camera. Most important for formals and not a bad idea for him to check before the ceremony either (esp with all hugs he gets from ladies with all the glitter and make-up rubbing off on his shoulders!)
Corset/laced wedding dress: Give an additional 30 minutes for a Corset/laced wedding dress and additional 15 minutes per bridesmaid dress.
Sun & Shade: When possible standard formals should be done in the shade. You also need to think about other events one way to find out how the sun may sit is to go to your venue ahead of time (ideally around the same time of year) and see where the sun hits, what tree shade is available and also check inside to see if it shines in the windows too bright. You may end up changing seating for you and your guests for the ceremony and/or reception.
Vintage buildings and churches are really, well, vintage: Some buildings are crooked! Some chapels, mantels, fireplaces, steps and churches just aren't exactly as straight as they used to be. As your photographer I make sure during photographing or processing that the majority of your photos will be straight (unless I purposely tilt for creativity). But some things are just the building/structure.
All heels on decks & grass: When wearing heels on decks or grass you may have to tiptoe to get around so you don't get stuck, dirty scraped up heels, or all three. Some don't mind, some do, so just a heads up. Depending on the dress your footwear can be hidden so boots or sneakers may be an option.
Candles may be considered cool but they are also hot: Three bad experiences. 1. Candles lining around a stone floor area for ceremony, caught a bridesmaid's flowing dress on fire at the bottom on the walk down the ceremony. 2. Candles on very narrow window sills in a small chapel with narrow side aisles, caught a woman's hair on fire. 3. Candles at a reception as table decor with too many other decor items, the table number made of thick paper caught on fire. Same type of thing happened before where the flowers kept catching on fire. Throughout the entire reception night I watched the groom running over to different tables putting the flowers out all night. Not exactly what you pictured your night being like. Candles can be very beautiful in the right safe setting. I find that flameless candles are the way to go and they show more consistent in photos.
Planner and/or coordinator needed discussion: Some people want their planner in photos because it may be a friend or family member please let me know. If you don't want your planner in photos make sure you let them know.
Onlookers and bathing beauties: Keep in mind that if you have your wedding at a public place, park, golf course or beach, you will have public people in some photo backgrounds.
Seeing spots? No, not from the camera flash - from the DJ lights! Sometimes the DJ lights cause odd color spots on the reception dance area photos. I don't mind it, sometimes it can actually add to creativity. But I've also seen them block out complete faces. The latest lights DJs are using are the tiny circle spotted lights (mostly green or red), this WILL be on your face/body and does show up often. I suggest turning them off for formalities. The majority of these cannot be photoshopped out.
Check local events: If there is a parade on your wedding day, guests may be late. It's good to know if there is an event going on beyond yours, proms, festivals, etc. Not that it can change much, but it is good to know during planning and setting times. It can also create booking problems with some vendors, such as limo availability senior prom season. In the Saratoga area rack season can also cause delays. Also, if you are planning way in advance, keep checking periodically throughout the year as things may be added or changed, along with rain dates. Don't let it stress you out because not everything can be perfectly planned out either, just be open to some adjustments.
You only wear it once: If I could convince every bride in the world to let go of the stress of your dress getting dirty on your wedding day, I think we all would be in a happier place. There are so many more positives than negatives in letting go. It makes better photos, there are no forehead worry wrinkles involved and I think your partner would even be impressed and relaxed more too. Next time you see a magazine photo of one that you really like, look at what they are doing. Are they sitting on mossy rocks, standing on a sandy beaches, walking in a field of tall growth, standing on or by a wet stream, kicking leaves that have fallen or leaning against a dirty wall or tree? Yeah probably. Would you do that? Consider it. Unless it's grease and major mud, it won't hurt you or the dress as you might think, if anything it adds character and creates unique memories. Besides, isn't that what your paying the dry cleaning for? The only exception to this is if you are doing formals before the ceremony, then I could see making a fuss and avoiding some things. Otherwise, let go and get the results you want. You only wear it once so be open to getting those dreamy fun photos and bring a pair of boots just in case. In the meantime, guess I'll just have to save it for a "dirty my dress" photo session.
Chewing gum! The sad truth is no one does a good job hiding it in photos.
Do not put your flowers in the freezer: This may sound like a good idea but it actually can be disastrous.
Family drama! We all have certain family or friends that should not for different reasons be seated next to certain people. Some have requested certain people not be in the same general location for even photos. Plan accordingly and no matter how awkward it may seem let your photographer know if you need to. It is less awkward in advance believe me.
Stop trying to preserve the wedding on the wedding day:When your day comes you will feel the need to protect all those special items you gathered. This is understandable but don't be so protective that they are not usable in photos. After all you protected them for this day not any other.
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